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Speak about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since the beginning of the world. Affairs can be fraught with evils, cause sorrow, and other troubles. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, money, age difference, religious education, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the purpose of this post I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married women.

Why do women have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I suppose mostly though it is just the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few explanations I have run across.

Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone are able to switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but society as well. So why, what is the mechanism?

Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your family or anybody else? You will need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest cluster, huge in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel comfortable in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your savings are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.

Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair at times solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.

Neglect, sorrowfully this is a common reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the husband is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a man I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.

Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is vanished, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just grown separately, our common interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The first reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.